You, Me and this thing called Destiny!

 You are what your deep driving desire is,
What your desire is, So is your will
What your will is, So is your Deed
What your deed is, So is your Destiny

You would be what your destiny is.

So here I'm again. Yes again and i added emphasis in that word.
So hows your dream going? well mine still going good, still trying to get out of my nest and get on location (if you know what i mean). Sometimes it's easily said then done but you've gotta start somewhere, if you think just dreaming about it or talking about it is not start anything than you're wrong. You don't have to get things done physically to say you are progressing, the biggest progress in achieving your dream is to talk about it to someone and dream about it more.. believe me this kicks in the motivation(and you need motivation to proceed).

Well this week is something... the humble astronaut Neil Armstrong whom is the first man to step on the moon has died (which we all know). He has avoided the spotlight many times saying what he did is not only done by him but with the help and knowledge of many staffs in the control room and from experiences of cosmonauts who have made earlier discoveries. Well i must say he has achieved his dreams not to step on the moon but the dream to fly.

Did you know that he got his pilot license at the age of 16 before he could even drive a car. He always want to be a pilot after he sat in an aeroplane at the tender age of 6. The hopes of becoming a pilot made him thrive well in mathematics and engineering, guess he was born in the right place huh? I mean with that dream to be a pilot one day can easily be achieved when you have the industry around you. Imagine someone like that growing up in the war stricken area of Syria or in Africa. Anyway the fact about Armstrong is his goals led him to greater heights beyond his believe and that is to lead the mission to the moon. Did you know that your home PC is 10 times stronger than the computers used in  the shuttle and they are huge unlike now we have laptops and notebooks (insane). So all the thinking and navigation has to be done by the pilot and those on the ground, one mistake is vital because unlike now the computers can not correct your calculations.
Okay before i go on forever about space stuffs this post is not about NASA. Its about people making their dreams come true, some by pursuing it from the start some just by chance. People like Armstrong i believe made history just by chance he was already living in his dream as a pilot and participating in the war as member of the US Air force and then NASA released the hunt for men fit for the mission to the moon and he just happen to fit the bill just like the first man to orbit the earth Cosmonaut Yuri Baragin. Destiny can reveal your biggest leap in life it's something we have no control of. But how do we make sure that kind of destiny comes our way.

Firstly What is Destiny?
Wikipedia definition states that Destiny or fate is a predetermined course of events. It may be conceived as a predetermined future, whether in general or of an individual. It is a concept based on the belief that there is a fixed natural order to the cosmos.

Well don't mind the cosmos or the eccentric words behind the origins of the definition above. In my definition Destiny or fate is something that happens for a reason or crossing paths with something or someone that is not considered a coincidence. Have you ever wondered how destiny led you to meet people you now call your friends. How do we know if destiny led you and not pure luck. I mean eventually you have to meet someone and they are going to be your friends so that can't be destiny...right? Well my friend i would like to introduce to you the 3 golden ways you can identify your destiny calling.

1) When your path crossed several times on your field of interest.
Meaning if you happen to be at the wrong place but on the right time or the other way around. Like you never actually planned to be there but something tells you, you should and then you come across an opportunity that you just can't afford to let down.. (something like that). Sometimes you will realize that destiny is like the french term 'De ja vu' you will see or think you saw the past repeating itself in front of you, and the strong feeling like you've been here before when in reality you didn't or feel like you say those words once and doing this once when in reality it's the first time for everything. Destiny made it clear that this feeling is all you because you want it so bad. And it is calling you.

2) When several options are laid out for you and among them is you field of interest.
   It will be hard to chose one and leave the other cause all of the options are good maybe good    money, travel or more fun. Destiny is calling you to choose, take note that these opportunities comes rarely so maybe you should put into consideration things like how long you wanted this to happen? Do i want this or do i need this? If i choose the other one will i be denying my field of interest? Dude, the only person you will be denying is yourself? But you have to remember sometimes what you are interested in right now, will only lead you to what you will settle down with in the future and that's the role of destiny. Every twist and turns have its reason. Let me tell you this Destiny is more revealing when there is a cross road in your life.

3) When you can make sense of a situation.
I like this one, because its true. You will know that destiny is calling when you make good sense of the experience or environment around you , if you can't make sense of it don't force it you are absolutely doing the wrong thing or at the wrong place in other words 'lying to yourself'. Remember destiny or fate is something we can not decide on.... its not even physical. But here's the fact, when you feel comfortable with your life and feel like this is it then that's your destiny.
For example have you seen the film 'Machine Gun Preacher'?

 Its so cool, OK briefly. This guy was once a drug addict and after coming out of prison and a few more troubled experiences he chose to follow his wife and became a christian. Anyway he went to Africa following a mission and ended up falling involve with the poverty stricken area and homeless orphan children in the war zone. He later on built an orphan center to house those unfortunate children till now that's what he continued to do. The center burnt several times but still he continued. He finally settled with his destiny. Going to Africa was not a mistake it was deliberate. You should watch that movie.

So i hope my post is clear as the crystals on the Himalayas. Its all based on my findings from the research i conducted ever since i know my name...lol!!! Hope it will help you to acknowledge your true calling.

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Who's Stopping You or What's Stopping You

Who's Stopping You or What's Stopping You

Hey dreamers or drifters. Welcome back to another dreaming post this subject just stuck to me i guess thats what happens when you have big dreams right?.. anyways you really don't wanna know where i'm typing from right now. Its Friday and for me it is "THE FRIDAY". Nothing special just glad to have a weekend spend it with Mom and dad and the family and of course catch up on some movies, very inspiring movies. In some of my posts later on, i will definitely share with you some of the inspiring film I love to watch but for now lets talk about the heading above.

OK. Let me get this right. You want to be something else in the future but your parents are holding you back? Maybe a dancer and they say thats not a real job. Or a singer but because you never sang to them they feel you are wasting your time, if thats not close how about you want to be a doctor but financial problems are holding you back from even sitting the CUT test. You want to be a pilot but there ain't no pilot schools near you and no scholarships for trainees so you sat back under a palm tree somewhere with the sand between you toes and watched

the aeroplanes fly above until it disapeared between the clouds imagining how the clouds and islands looked from up there.
Undeniably most of us kept on wishing on a falling star or even in broad daylight. I myself find myself repeating the words "I wish" every time something remind me of my dream job. Many obstacles are holding us back (No doubt about that) but some of the obstacles are barely necessary, some of the barriers holding us back involves with in our minds which evolves in our head.
Let me break it down for you according to my findings based on my costless research entitled "According to Myself" which i have been conducted ever since I know how to spell the word "Dream"....(lol!). No seriously.

What is Holding you back?

That is the significant question and always will be if you don't address it. Sometimes we have to make decisions that some people close to us will consider it as drastic or too mature. But hey everything is worth trying. And NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE TO A WILLING HEART.

Some factors holding you back can be:
- Distance
- Family
- Finance
- Illness
- Mindset
- Past experience
(Did i miss anything?)

Please allow me to elaborate.

Finance

Going to school is a burden to parents especially if you are a very sensitive teenager. Wanting too many things and peer pressure brings you down hard that you find your grade smiling back at you with the worst letters or figures in your life. Scholarships can be hard in this situation and you might turn to odd jobs to build a simple saving. The good thing is its never too late to learn and achieve your goal.
If what you want to achieve is way too expensive then there are people with money about but you have to be persuasive and show the new you and show why you are the better investment for them. People will be willing to invest a great sum on someone who displays the potential. Do short courses, get many experience and be involved in your goals, the wind will blow you to the people that pays this could be the solution to your financial problem.

Family

Families are the first people to support us or destroy our dreams. It doesn't mean your parents don't love you. Some parents just don't know when to take in the fact that you have to leave the nest and chase your goals. Have you seen the film 'Colledge Road Trip' its kinda like that. If your family is holding you back then you have to pursuade them why it is the best alternative for you. Show them what dream plan. But you must leave room for their complaints or comments because like it or not they are the first people to invest in you by paying your fees. So you gotta feel for them.

Distance

I like movies and i wish I'm a film director or actor but I'm from the pacific. There are little or no
opportunities for people with interests like mine. I search for advices in the web and one main
answer to make your goal come true is "I've got to get on Location". Location? Location? LA,
New York, America? England? Australia? It's far. Well this is not only for movie makers but other careers too. To find the right jobs you have to have the heart to move. Again slap me if im wrong but saying it is easy doing it is tough. If you think moving is tough then you have to change your mindset.

Mindset

Check out my earlier post on Changing you mindset. All i can say now about this is, ones mind is
strong which is why you have to have a plan and write down the reasons why this is important to you. And be sure to write down all the good that can come out of your goal once you have reached it. Every time if you feel down or discouraged don't take drastic actions and just QUIT. NO no way. Remind yourself you are not a quitter. Refer back to your goal plans and what you write to build your courage again. This works, by doing this you are building or adjusting your mindset. True success comes from people who fail. Somehow Failure is the best way to succeed.

Illness

This is a very tough factor because some genetic illnesses just won't heal thus causing a massive hit to your future dreams and goals. Or even a tragic accident can turn your whole life around. I'm no expert and i can't say i know what its like but thanks to Empathy I emerse myself in that world. What i find is although your dreams are shattered by an accident or illness its never too late to keep on dreaming and help others to achieve theirs by your experience. If you feel you can still do it then the only way is to train yourself to keep it going. The film Men of Honour is a good inspiring film or Soul Surfer or even the stroy of Ryan White. Dreams don't always turn out the way you want but the best part of life is to make other people realize what they have and be greatful. To put your footprints in the sands of time.

Inspiring films you've gotta watch!!

Past Experience

This factor is rough, depends on what experience a person has in the past. Some people from broken family did well in achieving their dreams because they do not want their child to have the same experience. Or they want a good life for their young sibling for example Oprah Winfry from her wikipedia you will find that she grew up in poverty and look at her now (billionaire i
see). Let your past be the way forward for you to the future. I believe in the words "To understand the future you have to revisit the past" coz what goes around comes around right?...
The solution is in your scars.

To conclude the bottom line is understand the factor that is holding you back or stopping you from achieving your dreams. Understand it. Deal with it. The final i like is "JUST GO WITH IT".
We've got one life to live make the most of it without hurting yourself and the ones close to you.Well i think Ive touched on everything Ive mentioned. Find your stepping stone in the factors to achieve your dreams.

Thanks for reading... Cheers!!

When you are you!!

When you are you!!!

The truth about my blogs is i post what i like and like what i post... I tend to be more  open and  to tell you the truth  as you can see I'm more focused on dreams and people with big dreams. Like really big, big dreams. While typing this i got myself thinking also "How the heavens am i gonna be what i call ....my dream job, in the future?"
You have no idea what I'm talking about do you? Good it means you have to follow me on my recent posts. Everyone knows something right? and I'm sure what you know or you think you know will eventually build you and others who know nothing.

Well enough with the intro!
Today's post is all about YOU!!

Check out the dialogue:

Adele: Why are you wearing blue?

You: What? I like Blue

Adele: No you don't, you practically hate the color ever since you caught your ex wearing a sexy blue strapless dress in the club kissing some other guy. That's how bad you hate blue

You: Guess its my way of saying, I'm with someone now

Adele: You know that isn't true

You: How would know?

Adele: I'm your flat mate, there ain't a girl sneaking around the apartment since U KNOW WHO. Besides you're not the type of guy who heals quickly Ive seen how you go down

You: You right i hate this color, I'll change

Adele: Wait. Maybe its time you meet someone new

You: What are you talking about?

Adele: You know what the hell I'm talking about

You: Lets go party!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You can tell in the dialogue that they are friends for a very long time. Connecting to each other like siblings. The point is you have no idea how the person beside you knows you better. I have a personality i really hate and I'd do everything in my will to get rid of it. The strength to listen and admit that I'm wrong. I hate saying words like "You're right" or "I was wrong" but I'm grateful i get to say those word without a grudge now. Because i accept being me. But it doesn't made me perfect but hey, there is light at the end of the tunnel when you are being YOU!!

Honestly all those High School moviessss are wrecking innocent minds right now. Full of Wannabes and Fakers. Just because the girl in front of you is way better looking then you and is going out with the hottest boy in class doesn't mean you have to go on a shopping spree to get a new wardrobe (Strictly girls). Or if the fresh faced guy in your office is attracting many women with his Dolce suit and Rolex watch doesn't mean you have to save up for a Ferrari. Although you know tides will turn for you with the short dress- to- impress trick  BUT the real you will find a way to come out eventually and oh boy....you don't want that to happen coz....it will crash you down. BOOOM!!
Tides do turn in life but let it turn at its own time. Be cool don't rush it.

Why being YOU is Significant!!
Three Golden Reasons and it revolves around the real thing...DREAMS or GOAL.

- To be YOU, will give you a whole new perspective of the world known as Honesty. And when you are chasing a far fetched dream, pretending will slowly smother you. If you know what i mean. Honestly with honesty you've got nothing to hide.

- When you are you , you will discover yourself more completely and adjust the personality you dislike by accepting comments from others. But don't take every comments personally some people will try to bring you down simply to change you. So its good to always get a second opinion especially from close friends.

- When you are you, you will find the ego or the rush to pursue your dreams. When you realize your dream  or your goal take action by doing something. Anything that makes you feel a step closer to it. And you will hear yourself saying "Wow is this me?" Take a good look coz that's the real you and YOU'RE GONNA NEED IT!!

Drifters go round in circles to discover who they are or what they want in life. Its OK to be a drifter but take this, a drifter without a dream or goal is useless, waste of time and there no happy endings to this. You will die drifting. YOU NEED TO DREAM!!


Gobble this:
If other people are commenting on you with pressure than you should act and think about changing yourself. In every people the best is deep within, it takes time and influence to bring the best out.

DON'T CHANGE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. CHANGE BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO. CHANGE LIKE YOUR WHOLE LIFE DEPENDS ON IT. then you can say hello to the real you..the new you but never the perfect you......(there is never a perfect person). But what the hell! As long as you reach your goals right?...Whatever.

Believe me it works even better when YOU ARE YOU!!
Thanks for reading!! Hope it helps you and the person hiding in YOU!! Cheerio!

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CONNECTING OUR DREAMS!! Finding your Main Chain!!

CONNECTING OUR DREAMS!! Finding your Main Chain!!

Well hey there!!
If you haven't followed my recent post then you will have absolutely no idea what I'm typing about or where I'm heading at. I was hoping, hoping and thousand times hoping to attract many young readers who have doubts about their future. Hey I've crossed that line you're not alone mate!!

Recently touching on the word Mindset! i do hope i got you thinking. Anyway, without the real connection you will still find yourself in a maze. This is what i like to call "MAIN CHAINS".
All of our thoughts and dreams have connections, in your spare time draw it up. Write down your goals and interests in life and things you really enjoy as a teenager look back, way back and wwaaaaaayyyyy back when you were a cute little child.... you might see you still enjoy something you enjoyed a lot as a child.. I'm not talking about your cutenesssss. Don't let it get through your head..... I'm talking about some of your childhood interest, though it is said that when we were children we think like children... I like to put it this way when WE WERE CHILDREN WE DID THINGS LIKE CHILDREN. You get my connection? We can still do those things but like adults or in a more mature way. If Tony wants to be a fireman at the age of 5, he'd be wearing costumes and playing with the garden hose. 10 years later, he'd be hitting the gym working on his abs and attending talks held by community's fire service. And he'll more likely to be a volunteer and lets not forget he'd be filling out an application form as soon as he graduated. Some 10 years later he quits the service and joins Rescue Ops, wheres the connection? He like rescuing people and be the hero of the day. Now that is his "MAIN CHAIN".


In other words its just a way to make it sensible... And in life Sensible has to be your friend. Like close, coz if you can't make sense of anything you will continue to ask yourself this stupid question "Why did i do that?"...
Thats the main reason why in your Dreaming map or your personal goal achieving web you need a MAIN CHAIN!!!
Apologies i was going to show you my dream map or goal web i drew up the other night unfortunately i misplaced my notepad. Damn i really did put a lot of color into it. Anyway i'm still gonna tell you how its done.

Step 1
- Think about what your goal is
- Think about what you are doing now

Step 2
  Answer questions like
- Is what I'm doing now gonna help me achieve my goal or am I drifting away   from it?
- Am I being honest to myself?
- Who am I lying to?

What 2 do!!
Draw on a blank A4 paper a circle in the middle and in that circle write your dream job. Outside the circle write your present activities or studies or job you are doing now. Try to make sense of it why you are doing it and try to connect it towards the circle in the middle. You will be looking at your Goal web with your sets of Main Chains. Sometimes it takes days to complete coz you will need to think critically. If you can't find the connection towards the circle than you are a drifter. Meaning you are still confused what to write in the circle.

 Find your reason why it matters to you. That is your link in connecting to your main chains. Like the blue link in this picture.

Note: Be realistic a dream job or goal is something you are struggling to achieve. Something that is real. If you write things like "Must Marry Prince Harry" then think again you need a bigger paper for that.....hahahahahahaha i mean. No Offense. Write a kiss list instead.

Now i hope this information does help you. I will show you my goal web if i find it. If not than I'll write another new one.. Keep on following this blog and lets drift together!! Be a follower and you can also be a guest blogger. If you think you have some advices or personal experience on achieving your goal then be a follower you can blog with me.

Enjoy the clip below. It's one of my favorite motivating songs i listening to.. Gavin Degraw "I don't wanna be anything"

Changing your mindset!!

Mindset? Mind set? What do i for one know about minds let alone sharing it with you. Well this is what i like to call REALITY-FICATION..
Kinda like what the Wall street is calling "OPRAHFICATION" knowing the truth and dealing with it by
publishing it for everyone to read or see (taken from Oprah Winfrey's name and her Famous Talk Show). In my "Realityfication" i publish what i know about life and learn about life because I've been living in this planet earth for 22 years now.. what? Honestly What?! think its not long enough to be wise? Well my sentiment exactly but the truth is, you never know what you know now could help build some other person who is having doubt with just about everything in L.I.F.E (Living It For Ever or thinking of Leaving It For Eternity).

This post is all about Mindset!
Mind is powerful and can be uncontrollable. You may think you own your mind but in some ways you own only 70 percent logically speaking. So who owns the remaining 30 percent. Your Mind. Ever heard of the term "Split Personality?" In Wikipedia it is defined as Dissociative identity disorder (DID), also known as multiple personality disorder, wikipedia described it as a mental disorder characterized by at least two distinct and relatively enduring identities or dissociated personality states that alternately control a person's behavior, and is accompanied by memory impairment for important information not explained by ordinary forgetfulness.
Big films like Hide and Seek starring Robert DeNiro and Dakota Fanning, Jim Carrey's Me, Myself and Irene and even some television series like Heroes has one of it's characters as a person with split personalities displaying the other one to be very dangerous to the classic Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde.

 

 An artist's impression of Split personality

Whether these people do exist or is it only to our imaginations. One thing is for sure our Mind can make us a different person thus creating a split personality. The truth is there are two faces on every coin...right?..It is good to have two personalities but make them work together it doesn't have to be totally different. The bottom line is you have to be daring to make it work. Make what work? Your dreams. Your big break to the future. Your greatest dedire to fulfillment. Your.....i don't have to go on, this blog will be boring. (Where was I?...ah yes. Don't be afraid to venture into new zones. Continents were discovered and mapped by daring captains who have crossed the uncharrted waters with daring crews while some may have no experince of sailing the high seas some can't even swim an even greater example is the journey to the moon, with no concrete detail about how safe the suit is and the atmosphere or the shuttle everything is based on theory and minimum research but something lurred them to such expeditions. This is my favoutrite part...there is an ego, or curiosity in them but something i'd like to call "THE MAIN". Main chain is the significant reason behind it all, the only reason why you are pushing hard it can be based on your experience or past something you do not want to repeat.

The Main Chain will always be your prime focus why you are pursuing your dream. I will talk more on that in my next post but for i hope I'm building your mindset.

Why do I need to change my Mindset?
Firstly- You don't have to change it you just need to adjust it.
3 Reasons Why?
- To achieve your goal by breaking that barrier in your life
- To be able to approach reality and face its disadvantages
- To grow with a positive attitude and learn from your downfalls
Its all about the change you give and the strength you gain.

How do i do it?
Everyone has their own style or ways. Remember everyone is a boss to their own minds right?...wrong

sometimes our minds do things by themselves known purely as pleasures. Okay cut the crap..the truth is

i can't tell you how to change your mindset. But i can help you the rest is up to you!!
I like to call this "BRAIN SAINTS".. and it works..
Ask yourself these questions and write it down in your notebook

1) Why am i reading this blog?
2) What will happen to me if i remain the same person?
3) What dreams do i have and want to achieve?
4) Why am i determine to chase my goals?

Answer those BRAIN SAINTS questions truthfully and write as many answers as you can you will see your are building a cycle of thoughts. Keep your notes and refer to it every time you think life is not working out for you or if you have doubts about chasing your dreams. Add your own questions and also share it with us by posting your comments below.

Get ready to set S.A.I.L (Sail Along In Life)

A post U can relate to!!!

Ok cut the crap of this FORMALITY that’s not me besides it’s a blog right? Wrong.. Bloggers can write about something that is really serious and needs some kind of formality I mean check out the Defence,economics,society,politics,country blogss everything serious comes under this...

Well in this blog I’m going to make it more casual but also friendly in a way it is not too underage for some or over aged for some. Briefly let’s just drop the classification O.K.? Are we good? Guess we are. Now like I said in my first post I’m not a PhD (Permanent Head Damage) grad I’m not even a freak staring into the crystal bowl every evening to figure out the future nor am I a person who reads all kind of psychological book but I have countless friends who became drifters and yet to settle down. And I mean countless. For me I’m a dreamer, I always set my goals higher than myself without really thinking how the hell am I gonna be up there? You know what I mean? I’m going to be honest with you, my twin sister and I have the same interests in our future we both want to be filmmakers or even worse actors. There I said it and GOSH IT FEELS GOOD!!! Now where am from there is no creative industry here in my country but did we let that excuse beat us…. Nah uh!! Nope we didn’t. In some ways it overcomes us to face reality and having our family saying it to our face over and over again that we are dreaming but guess what that makes us stronger. Hold on I’m not an Actor or a filmmaker, well not yet anyway but I was hoping we’d achieve it together now the question is Are you in or are you OUT!!! I mean O.U.T (Outter Unwanted Terrestrial)

Try this SNAP OUT OF IT riddle?

3 young women in the park eating an ice- cream one bit the cream without licking it, the other one licked it like a lady, the 3rd one ate it slowly and starred into space while letting the ice-cream melt. Which one of them is married?

Post your answer below and follow me on my next post i'll tell you the answer and what kind of a mindset are you having. Oh and see if u need to change it too...